You didn’t light the dumpster fire. But it’s burning in your backyard.
The good news? That means you’re in charge of what happens next.
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You Didn’t Ask For This, But It’s Your Responsibility Now
War, economic downturn, political strife, natural disasters… it seems like we’re facing negativity at every turn.
It feels like we are all facing a big dumpster fire.
If we aren’t careful, this dumpster fire of negativity can easily torch your goals.
That’s why this month is all about helping you fireproof your positivity.
Now It’s Your Problem
I’m going to share a difficult truth with you about this dumpster fire of negativity.
You didn’t ask for this situation, but you own it now. If you don’t own it, it will own you.
In many prior posts, I have discussed the R-Factor created by Focus 3. The R-Factor is an equation that represents the reality we each face every day of our lives.
E+R=O.
This equation is a reminder that the events in our lives (the E), combined with our responses to them (the R), is what shapes the outcomes in our lives (the O).
You don’t get to control all the events in your life, but you do get to control your responses. That means you can still achieve the outcomes you want even when faced with undesired events.
My alternative definition of E+R=O goes like this…
Shit happens in our lives, and you don’t always get to choose when it does.
But we do get to choose how to respond when shit inevitably happens.
So, back to our difficult truth where we started.
You didn’t choose to be faced with a dumpster fire of negativity. But you’re in luck. You own what comes next.
You can choose to be intentional and proactively fireproof your positivity.
You Have to Start on the Right Foot
The R-Factor equation is a powerful way to protect your goals and your positivity from the dumpster fire of negativity. But it doesn’t just magically happen. You need to do the work to set yourself up for success.
The E+R=O equation starts with knowing your O. You have to know the outcome you want to achieve.
As the saying goes, if you don’t know where you’re going, any road will lead you there.
The quickest path to knowing your O is to focus your energy on your goals.
As I explain in Project Manage Your Life:
Goals put you in control. When you set a goal, you stop waiting for life to unfold randomly and start creating your future intentionally…Your goal becomes your North Star, guiding your decisions, helping you prioritize, and giving each day a sense of purpose.
When you set a goal, you now know the outcome you want in your life. Then, using E+R=O, you can choose the behaviors and actions that move you closer to that goal, no matter what events life throws your way.
Fireproofing your positivity starts with setting a goal. The better the goal, the more powerful a tool it will be.
If you don’t already have a goal, I have multiple tools to help you. The Project Manage Your Life Starter Kit will guide you through committing to your highest priority goals and building the plan to make them real. It will also help you establish the early momentum to prevent your goals from going up in flames after a couple of weeks.
Grab your Starter Kit. Set strong goals. Build real momentum. Make yourself impervious to dumpster fires of negativity.
Let’s Get Our Rs in Gear as a Team
Even with solid goals and the R-Factor, it isn’t always easy to protect your positive energy. But it gets a little easier when you’re surrounded by other people intentionally protecting their energy.
The next Goal Crusher Coffee chat will help you protect your goals and energy from the dumpster fire of negativity in the world around you.
Fireproof Your Positivity
Protecting your positivity when the world’s a dumpster fire.
In this session, I will share some of my clients’ favorite strategies for protecting their positive energy.
Then, during our roundtable, we will each answer one simple question:
What’s one thing you can do this week to fireproof your positivity?
If you’re ready to break free from the negativity and start proactively protecting your positivity, this conversation is for you.
Click below or visit OperationMelt.com/CoffeeChat to save your spot for this free event.
You may not have asked for this dumpster fire. But you own it now. And that’s actually good news. Because it means the next move is yours. A simple equation. A clear goal. A community of people making the same choice. That’s how you fireproof your positivity.
You’re here for a reason. Let’s take the next step.
Meet Coach Tony
Tony Weaver is a master life coach, technologist, consultant, writer, and founder of Operation Melt.
He helps project managers and other left-brained high-achievers pursue their biggest goals.
Through free resources, personalized coaching, and his proven Project Manage Your Life system, Tony empowers clients to move their dreams from “someday” to success… one step at a time.
Learn more about Project Manage Your Life, the system my clients and I use to crush our goals, at OperationMelt.com/PMYL/
Meet Coach Tony